it’s easier to be alone because what if you learn that you need love and then you don’t have it? what if you like it and lean on it? what if you shape your life around it, and then it falls apart? can you even survive that kind of pain? losing love is like organ damage. it’s like dying. the only difference is death ends. this…it could go on forever…
Here’s the thing about that… No matter how much you may want them in your life, no matter how much you fight to keep them there, if they don’t want to be there, they will walk away. It’s at that point when you’ll need to decide how you’ll handle things. You can get angry and rip them to shreds, or you can tell them goodbye and good luck, and turn with grace and dignity, and walk in the other direction. Sure you will stumble and fall along the way, but you’ll get up, dust yourself off, and walk again, because that’s what we do when we truly love someone.
That’s what I’m doing everyday. As hard as it is, as much as it hurts, I love too much to hurt them in return.
When you start your day, don’t just spend time thinking about yourself or how you can make your own life better. Think about ways you can make someone else’s life better, too! Ask yourself, “Who can I encourage today? Who can I build up?” You have something to offer those around you that no one else can give. Someone in your life needs your encouragement. Someone in your life needs to know that you believe in them. We are responsible for how we treat the people He’s placed in our lives. He’s counting on us to bring out the best in our family and friends.
The fact that you’re struggling doesn’t make you a burden. It doesn’t make you unloveable or undesirable or undeserving of care. It doesn’t make you too much or too sensitive or too needy. It makes you human. Everyone struggles. Everyone has a difficult time coping, and at times, we all fall apart. During these times, we aren’t always easy to be around — and that’s okay. No one is easy to be around one hundred percent of the time. Yes, you may sometimes be unpleasant or difficult. And yes, you may sometimes do or say things that make the people around you feel helpless or sad. But those things aren’t all of who you are and they certainly don’t discount your worth as a human being. The truth is that you can be struggling and still be loved. You can be difficult and still be cared for. You can be less than perfect, and still be deserving of compassion and kindness.